Struggling with Messy Relationships? Here’s the Answer You Need

Good morning,

Relationships can be messy. Let’s face it—people will disappoint you, hurt you, and sometimes fail you. Yet, in the middle of all the messiness, relationships are one of God’s greatest blessings. This week, we’re looking at how Jesus cultivated community and how His example shows us the way forward, even when relationships get hard.

This Week’s Focus: Healthy Relationships Take Commitment

Jesus knew firsthand how messy relationships could be. Judas betrayed Him. Peter denied Him. Yet, Jesus didn’t avoid people—He leaned in. Even as He prepared for the cross, He spent intentional time with His disciples, calling them friends. He didn’t base His relationships on what He received but on grace that flowed from the Father.

So, how can we follow His example in cultivating relationships that thrive?

1) Expect the Mess

People are messy. Even Jesus’ closest friends betrayed and denied Him, but that didn’t stop Him from loving them. Relationships require grace—both to give and receive. When someone offends you (and they will), choose to follow Christ’s lead by offering forgiveness and staying committed.

Action Step: Reflect on a time when someone hurt you. Have you forgiven them? Take a moment to pray for grace to release any lingering bitterness.

2) Root Your Relationships in Grace

If your relationships depend on what you receive, they’ll falter when things get hard. Jesus’ friendships weren’t transactional; they were rooted in the grace and love of the Father. He loved without expecting anything in return. When you model this, your relationships will deepen and thrive.

Action Step: Think of one relationship you’ve been holding back in. This week, reach out to that person, not for what you’ll get, but to show them God’s love.

3) Be Intentional Like Jesus

The closer Jesus got to the cross, the more intentional He became with His time. He spent His final hours with His disciples, teaching, praying, and reminding them of their importance. Intentional time is the foundation of lasting relationships.

Action Step: Set aside 30 minutes this week to invest in one meaningful relationship. Whether it’s a friend, spouse, or fellow believer, give them your full attention.

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P.S. Next week, we’ll explore how to recognize God’s hand in your everyday interactions and see His work in your relationships. Don’t miss it!

Blessings,
Joshua Weisbrod
Founder, Grow Greater Faith